Hello all
It’s been about a week since my last blog, it has just been so busy!!
I hope you are well doing well???
Well, you know the saying “honesty is the best policy”….
I’ve always told my fiance to be honest with me, no matter what I really value it… but I just wish there was a way to be honest and tactful lol.
I had a friend to stay at the weekend and it was great, ate well - had salmon and pesto and salad for dinner which was really good and yummy, BUT I did share a bottle of wine with her (2 glasses) and had 8 squares of milk chocolate while we watched Shrek lol. I NEVER do that and I thought “you know, what is one night going to do”… I thought it would be okay because I never see my friend and it was just really nice to have a girly catch up etc.
Well, I went upstairs to see Kieran who was on the PC and he had a go at me, saying why did I need wine and chocolate to have a good time (BTW can I just say that I never drink, and have never been a big drinker, so it is not like I am a recovering alcoholic, although he made me feel like it!!).
I said that it was 2 glasses of wine and a bit of chocolate. He then says “don’t you want to look nice in a wedding dress next year” and said he was setting an example with his glass of orange juice and a banana… My friend is a 22 and I am a 12/14 - so he feels that with my friend being bigger than me, she’ll try to make me bigger or whatever…. I was quite hurt and just went downstairs.
The next day he was like oh, you bought me some chocolate too? (We bought him some dark chocolate - his favourite - so he didn’t feel left out last night, even though he ignored it!) and then said he fancied a beer in the evening. Honestly, it’s okay for him but not for me? He is like 6ft 2 and perfect - even though he eats whatever he wants….
Anyway, fast forward to last night, we had chilli and rice and I was starving so had a big plateful, when I had finished my dinner I felt guilty about it enough, and then he said that I should have little portions because I am only little (I am 4ft 10 lol). I said I knew that but I was really hungry… he then said that I should be having smaller portions and if I go to bed hungry, that is good because it means that it is working? I thought the point was that I shouldn’t be hungry but should be eating healthily.
So, I felt really bad because I knew I had too much on my plate, and a bit hurt by this, and even felt like being sick to get rid of the guilt. I wasn’t sick because I knew that is wrong - and I have read it so many times on here that it is wrong, so I didn’t want to disappoint me, Kieran or you guys on here lol.
Instead I did my dance dvd til I was exhausted and then went to bed.
This morning I feel okay, but want to do more exercise… I know what Kieran was TRYING to say, he wants me to be happy with my body, to look good on our wedding day and to be healthy so I live til I’m really old lol. I just wish he could be more tactful about it….
*SIGH* ANNOYINGLY… I know he is right… maybe that is why I was upset?
Anyway, sorry for the rant and I hope all is going well for you all
Hugs x x x x